If most wedding magazines were taken as gospel, it would be safe to assume that all wedding parties are made up of models. More likely than not, your wedding party is made up of a lot of people who look nothing like each other, but who you love equally. Which makes choosing bridesmaid dresses a special kind of complicated.
1. Asking the Wrong Questions: For the most part, people know what they’re signing up for when agreeing to be a bridesmaid. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still ask questions. Instead of trying to figure out what dress style everyone will love, ask if anyone has a no fly list. Maybe your redheaded bestie hates the color orange, your small-chested sister won’t wear strapless dresses, and your gender non-conforming cousin doesn’t mind dresses, but would prefer to wear something less fitted. It’s way easier to narrow down from a list of don’ts than from a list of must haves.
2. Giving too many options: Contrary to popular belief, more options aren’t always better in the world of bridesmaid dresses. At least, not if you don’t want to field eight hundred texts from your wedding party asking “What about this one?” or “Is this okay?” and then having to figure out what to do when you realize that “Choose anything you want” actually means “Choose anything except the one you just picked.” In fact, “Pick anything you want” can actually be more stressful than just giving some parameters (because no one wants to accidentally end up the odd woman out who looks like she didn’t get the coordinating dress memo). So here’s a helpful tip: if you care about cohesion, then choose a designer you like and narrow it down to a color or color family you like best and let your bridesmaids choose from there.
3. Forgetting to jump up and get down: Let me paint a picture for you: you got to a bridesmaid dress store, find a dress you like, try it on, and it looks great, so you buy it. Then the wedding rolls around. And halfway through Baby Got Back, you realize you just accidentally flashed your best friend’s uncle and now you have to spend the rest of the night dancing with one hand hiking up your gown. Yeah, I’ve been to that wedding too. (I’ve, um, been that person at that wedding.)